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If Something Doesn’t Feel Right

Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected in their relationships, friendships and online spaces.
The White Ribbon campaign challenges harmful behaviours, violence, pressure and control, and encourages young people to speak up early.

If something happening in your life doesn’t feel right, you’re not expected to deal with it alone.
If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 999.

Understanding What’s Really Going On

Violence and abuse aren’t always physical. It can start with small things that build up over time.
If you’re unsure whether what you’re experiencing is wrong, ask yourself:

• Does this person make me feel nervous, controlled or on edge?
• Do I change how I behave so they don’t get angry?
• Do I feel pressured to do things to “keep the peace”?
• Has their behaviour got worse over time?

If the answer is yes, it’s worth talking to someone.

 What Harmful Behaviour Can Look Like

You can reach out if any of the following are happening:

• Someone checks your phone, social media or location without permission.
• You’re pressured, guilt-tripped or forced into something you don’t want.
• Someone puts you down, threatens you or tries to make you feel small.
• Rumours or private information are being spread about you.
• You’re getting unwanted messages, images or constant contact.
• Someone is sharing or threatening to share intimate images.
• Online chats, snaps or group chats make you feel uncomfortable.
• Arguments at home feel unsafe or unpredictable.

These behaviours are not normal, not your fault and not something you have to manage alone.

 Why does This Matter

Young people often keep things to themselves because they feel embarrassed, worry no one will believe them or think they’re “overreacting”.
But reaching out early can stop a situation from getting worse. There are people who take you seriously and want to support you, without judgement.

You can speak to a youth worker, mentor, trusted teacher, safeguarding lead or someone at home. If talking to someone you know is difficult, use one of the services below:

Who You Can Talk To

You’re allowed to ask for help, even if you’re unsure or it feels like “not a big deal”.
You can speak to:

• A youth worker or mentor
• A trusted teacher, tutor or safeguarding lead
• Someone at home who you feel safe with

If you’d rather talk to someone outside your circle, these services are here for you:

Childline — 0800 1111 | childline.org.uk
Confidential advice for anything that’s worrying you.

National Domestic Abuse Helpline — 0808 2000 247
Support for anyone experiencing controlling or harmful behaviour at home.

Respect — respect.uk.net
Support for boys and young men who are worried about their relationships, behaviour or safety.

Enfield Youth & Family Hubs
Youth workers available at Craig Park, Ponders End, Bell Lane and Croyland for confidential support.

Supporting a Friend

If you’re worried someone you know is being controlled, pressured or harmed:

• Listen and let them talk at their own pace
• Don’t blame them or ask why they stayed
• Remind them none of this is their fault
• Encourage them to speak to someone who can help
• Tell a trusted adult if you think they’re unsafe or in danger

Looking out for each other saves lives.

Confidentiality

Most conversations stay private.
Youth workers or professionals only share information if someone is at serious risk or immediate danger.
Reaching out will not get you in trouble. It’s about keeping you safe.

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